New ways for young people to socialize 72.6% of the young people interviewed have ＂partners＂ in their lives.

　　"Meal partner", "Game partner" and "Fitness partner" … … During this time, the related topic of "socializing with children" has attracted the attention of netizens. As long as the interests are the same, you don’t have to be very familiar with each other. As long as the rhythm is in tune, you can travel together … … Do you have your own "partner" in life?

　　Recently, a survey conducted by the Social Investigation Center of China Youth Newspaper on 1,335 respondents showed that 72.6% of the young people interviewed said that they had a partner in their lives, and 68.9% of the young people interviewed thought that finding a partner was a brave step to step out of the social comfort zone and seek a new social model.

　　72.6% of the young people interviewed said that they have "partners" in their lives.

　　Peng Tao, a post-80s civil servant, found a partner on social software this Spring Festival and drove to mangshi, Ruili and Weishan.

　　In the survey, 72.6% of the young people interviewed said that they have "partners" in their lives, 20.0% said that they have not, and they will look for them if necessary, and 7.4% said that they have not and will not look for them.

　　Su Zelin, a graduate student from a university in Beijing, especially likes to visit the park. She originally made an appointment with her roommate to go together every week, but later her roommate had her own business, so she had to find a partner. "When I visit the park, I like to let others take pictures for me, so I posted a post on my social account, looking for girls who are about my age and can take pictures, graduate students or college students. In my spare time, we can go to the parks in Beijing together and take pictures of each other. Finally, I found two suitable ‘ Partner ’ , have a good time. If we are free now, we will go out once a week. "

　　Chi Yukai, an associate professor at the School of Psychology of South China Normal University, thinks that young people have a desire to make friends, and "socializing with children" is a manifestation of the diversification of ways of making friends in the new era and a normal phenomenon. Relying on the progress of technology, the weak connection on the network is easy to establish, and young people, especially single young people, will be keen to find a partner.

　　In the survey, the main partners are rice partners (52.9%), sports partners (43.4%), travel partners (37.7%), study partners (34.2%), game partners (31.1%), others are: walking baby partners (22.4%), group buying, making up orders and so on.

　　"I used to have a friend who studied English together ‘ Partner ’ We both make English speeches and need to practice in advance, so we decided to take free time to practice together. " Su Zelin and his own study "partner" have been built since last semester, and they meet and practice almost three or four days a week.

　　In the process of finding a partner, people usually consider hobbies (70.1%), moral quality (60.8%), whether the rhythm is in tune (48.5%), consumption concept (46.5%), personality charm (43.7%) and so on.

　　Liu Yumeng, a female graduate student at the University of Electronic Science and Technology of China, thinks that it is better for women to "partner" and the safety factor is relatively high. At the same time, it is also very important to find a "partner" personality, so it is necessary to find people who are easy to get along with and communicate with. "I value living hygiene habits, location distance, free time, etc. Because looking for ‘ Partner ’ I hope that I can do something together offline. If I am too far away, the time cost will be relatively high, which is a bit unworkable. "

　　"First of all, we must find people in the same city, secondly, whether the interests and hobbies are consistent, whether the other party has more free time, and thirdly, we should be easy-going." Peng Tao had an appointment with the movie "Tie Zi" before. "I wanted to watch a movie together, but after seeing that person, I found that the other person was smoking, and I haven’t talked since I watched the movie once.".

　　In addition, whether there is enough time (34.2%), appearance (29.5%) and whether you can provide help (15.3%) are also factors that everyone will consider when looking for a partner.

　　68.9% of the young people surveyed believe that finding a partner is a brave step to seek a new social model.

　　Liu Yumeng feels that "socializing with children" is a more open and free social way, which will gain many fresh and unique experiences. She suggested that because I didn’t know the "partner" at first, I should not expect too much, so the probability of disappointment is relatively small. However, she also feels that "partner" belongs to a shallow social interaction, and it is easy to disconnect if it is not actively maintained.

　　For "partner" socialization, 68.9% of the young people interviewed think it is a brave step to step out of the social comfort zone and seek a new social model, and 53.7% think it is an efficient interpersonal communication and even a learning lifestyle.

　　Chi Yukai said that we spend too much time on the mobile phone, but there is still a difference between the real feelings and real communication in our life. Playing games on the mobile phone, making friends or watching videos, when you pull out, there may be a feeling of emptiness, so people need to have offline communication. Nowadays, many people may have only a few good friends, and they are far away in different places. In this case, it is necessary to meet the needs of life. The way of making friends is very suitable and is a supplement and enrichment to the current interpersonal communication.

　　Su Zelin found that "partner" is gradually becoming a new way of "getting rid of the single". Boys will find girls to "partner" and girls will find boys to "partner". The process of getting along with each other is similar to blind date. "But in this process, everyone must have a strong sense of safety and don’t be cheated."

　　"It takes a lot of time to make friends offline, and now the pace of life is very fast, so it is difficult to establish such a deep relationship. In this case, ‘ Social interaction ’ I think it is a good thing. " Chi Yukai believes that young people should be allowed to have a variety of ways to make friends, and new forms will emerge constantly, so that society will be more dynamic. Young people should try all kinds of possibilities.

　　"But if all one’s social activities are ‘ Partner ’ This form is also inappropriate. People must have deep interpersonal communication, and they must have close partners that can be entrusted. For example, if you are sick in the hospital and the operation requires general anesthesia, you have to give your identity information and bank account number to a person at this time. Do you have such a friend? This is a deeper level of communication and needs to trust each other. " Chi Yukai said that this kind of quality interpersonal communication is an important source of our happiness.

　　In the survey, 49.3% of young people think that "partner socialization" may lead to a lack of awareness and emotional ability to establish deep interpersonal relationships, and 45.8% of young people think that "partner socialization" can not only help each other and realize their needs together, but also may be transformed into intimate relationships.

　　"When we are looking for ‘ Partner ’ At that time, I felt that I was exploring the place where I didn’t grow up the most. For example, I’m talking to my two ‘ Partner ’ When chatting, I will subconsciously compare their experiences with my own. In the process, I will think about what would happen if I were in that situation. " Su Zelin said that "socializing with children" is also a disguised way of self-exploration.

　　Can "partners" become good friends? Su Zelin believes that it takes a long time for two people to become friends and experience something together. However, it is relatively simple to "take a partner" and get together purely for doing something together. So "I want to get from ‘ Partner ’ The transition to a friend takes some time to accumulate. "

　　"I have a ball player ‘ Partner ’ Usually, I don’t talk much and just play ball, which can only be regarded as ‘ Partner ’ . If we get along well with each other and talk about something else during the course of playing, we will gradually learn from ‘ Partner ’ Develop in the direction of friends. " Peng Tao said that "partner" can be an opportunity to make friends, but don’t expect too much to be friends, just follow the trend.

　　Among the young people interviewed, 27.9% were born after 00, 49.9% after 90 and 22.2% after 80.

　　(At the request of the interviewee, Su Zelin and Peng Tao are pseudonyms.)

　　Zhongqingbao Zhongqingwang reporter Wang Pinzhi Intern Sun Liping Source: China Youth Daily